But because it is powerful!  It will lift you high, up into the light of the divine, but in doing so it will shake the very foundation that you stand on, often causing you to lose your footing and plunge into the dark hours of the soul.

During these dark times we can find ourselves feeling very much alone, scrambling to catch our breath in what seems to be a tsunami of emotion and tears.

In this article I am going to share with you why it is that we go through these hard times, why it is not necessarily a bad thing, and how it can actually serve you in the journey towards a great natural childbirth!

Trusting Natures Divine Path to Natural Childbirth

You having been called to grow this life and bring it into the world through natural childbirth is no mistake! This is the most important thing you will ever do.

You have been called to open the gate for your baby to transition through the divine light of love, a majestic welcome for a soul so deserving!

As with any true assignment of the soul, you will be perfectly guided in the journey and completion of this act. Your job is to simply allow and trust that nature has its specific order and purpose, and even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time it is always leading you on the perfect path.

Preparing for Natural Childbirth- Emotional Clearing

Nature’s first order of business is to clear the pathway of any gunk that has built up over your life time that could possibly get in the way of natural childbirth.

 This is often the hardest part, and the most important. It works by going deeply inside of you seeking out all negative energies and emotions that have been stored, activating them, bringing them to surface and then clearing them out. This happens naturally without your permission or consent, it makes no difference whether it is inconvenient for you, or whether it is hard or causes you pain. It does it because it is a vital and necessary part in preparing you for natural childbirth!

Why Hard Times are Essential to Having an Easy Natural Childbirth

Nature is not punishing you; it is preparing you for natural childbirth.

In a natural childbirth when a problem arises it is almost always a result of the Mothers state of mind and emotion during the time of birth. If she has not let go of old harmful emotions and thought patterns prior to her birthing time, it will come up during birth in some form of complication.

So instead of dealing with emotional issues at the time of birth, nature encourages them to be activated, dealt with and cleared out during your pregnancy. This is the preparation stage.

At one point or another in your journey towards natural childbirth you will go through times that will not only challenge you, but will shake you to the core and leave you collapsed on floor in tears. Sounds fun I know! But we’ve all been there before and will all be there again.

Nature intentionally puts you through these hard times. It is working perfectly as planned, presenting you with exactly what you need to rid yourself of anything and everything that does not serve you.

Releasing That Which Does Not Serve You

Often times this release does not come easy, it happens with you kicking and screaming, not quite ready to let go of all that pain. It may seem easier to just want to tuck it away again, where it was safe and forgotten about.

But it is Gods will that you release these things and rid yourself of all obstacles that veil your light, only then can you begin to fulfill your purpose.

Only through awakening the pain that is buried within you can you excommunicate it and bring it to the light.

Losing Control and Letting it Go

As women one of the most difficult lessons for us to learn is to allow ourselves to release that control and just let it go.

We have a tendency to cling onto our emotions, holding them inside not letting them go, until they come to a boiling point and we can’t take it anymore, then there’s no stopping them! This is when we say, “I am freaking out! I feel like I’m losing it!”

But our problem is not that we’ve lost control over our emotions; it is that we didn’t let that control go. The reason why sometimes we act out in such extremities when we are emotional is because we are in conflict with what is. We are upset that we are having these emotions. We can’t just accept them and allow them to come, we try to fight them, to struggle against them, and unconsciously creating more conflict and more tension until finally they explode.

Stop Judging Your Emotions and Just Let Them to Be

Do not judge. And do not fight your emotions. It is important to feel them, to allow them to surface, and to let them go freely without any feelings of guilt or shame associated with it.

 If you are on the floor crying, accept that that it is where you’re at right now, realizing that it is a necessary release  to clear out old emotions to make space for new truths.

When you feel like you are breaking down, allow it happen, without judgment and without trying to control it. Just accept it as part of the process and allow it to happen.

This may be one of the biggest lessons we are given that prepares us for natural childbirth, learning to surrender control, to accept what is taking place without judging it.

Lessons of Natural Childbirth- The Calm and the Storm

We must accept and embrace the difficult times as fully as we accept the easy times. This is a fundamental part of natural childbirth.

Having a natural childbirth is not all effort and it is not all rest. It is the perfect balance between the two. Contractions are the storm, the challenge, and the rest in between contractions is the calm, the ease.

Of course when a contraction comes on it is not easy, it is a challenge to stay centered in the midst of all that pressure. But it is what it is.  It makes no since to fight it, the only thing that will do is cause it to be painful and harder than it has to be.  This is the process, it is necessary and it has its purpose. This is what is moving your baby closer to being born.

When you are in the act of natural childbirth you are participating in something that is infinitely larger than you and beyond your control.

So there is nothing to do, except relinquish control.  Your judgment and your attempts to fight against what is taking place will quickly prove to be futile. There is nothing to be done except to trust the process. All you have to do is simply allow.

You also know that nothing is permanent, and that each period of intensity will be followed by a period of rest. It is like the waves of an ocean billowing powerfully in, and then receding peacefully out. This is the beautiful cycle of natural childbirth.

Lessons of Pregnancy – Embracing the Tides of Your Emotions

Everything that happens during pregnancy is connected with the lessons of birth.

The same lesson is true for when you are experiencing the emotional cycles of your pregnancy. You will experience both the calm and the storm.  And it makes no since to struggle, or to fight against it, it is necessary and purposeful. It is the natural process of preparing you for natural childbirth. The pain is simply the act of clearing the emotional and spiritual path for your baby’s arrival.

 It is bigger than you and beyond your control, and so there is nothing to do except to surrender that control. Simply accept the process, trusting and knowing that it is nature’s divine plan at work. And that the pain will pass. And when all the darkness that has been weighing you down has been lifted you will be set free from fear!

In the absence of fear you open the space for love to guide you and your baby through the divine natural childbirth that is rightfully yours.

Though we have all come to embark upon this grand journey of natural childbirth through our own separate paths, we are not really separate at all but united in a common calling towards our purpose.

As a Mother our purpose is possibly the greatest of them all. We have been called to birth, to carry another soul and deliver it into being. This soul is dependent on us to answer this call fully with all that we are, because how he experiences his new world lies greatly in the way he is allowed to enter into it and how much love is presented to him in the process.

Within this article lies the secret to how we can rediscover ourselves as the masters and creators of our own experience, and how we can use this knowledge to deliver our babies upon the Earth in a loving way so that they may feel in peace, balance and harmony with life.

Preparing Yourself for Natural Childbirth- Shedding Your Past

 Who Would You Be Without Your Story?

I once saw a bumper sticker that read “who would you be without your story?” Of course I loved it and it has stuck in my memory for some time now. It pointed to the truth of what we really are.

We are more than just a compilation of events and experiences that have taken place in our lives, we are more than the judgments we have placed on ourselves, and the labels and opinions that others have placed on us.

In order to have a truly wonderful natural childbirth  it is necessary for us to realize who we are beyond our stories of who we make ourselves out to be. We must discover ourselves at our deepest level. We are infinitely more, infinitely greater then we can imagine. We are pure potentiality waiting to be fulfilled!

To Fulfill Your Potential For an Amazing Natural Childbirth You Must Move Forward into Your True Self

In order to realize the full potential of who we really are and what we’re capable of we must first free ourselves from the past.  When we continue the cycle of reliving in our minds the memories and stories of the past we are hindering our ability to move forward into our true selves.

The reason for this is that your mind cannot occupy two spaces at once. If your mind is preoccupied on the past, on things that have been done to you, or that you have done, or how you used to live, or what you used to think, or the million other things that have taken place in your life up to this point then you are not allowing any room for the present moment to take place.  

Although your body may be in the present moment your intentions are not there with it, you are instead living in a moment that is gone, and a missed opportunity for acting in the present moment then arises.

When it comes to birth this is imperative! Let me explain why:

During Natural Childbirth the Present Moment is all That There Is

Contractions or “Birthing waves” carry in them great intensity and power, they enter into your body like nothing you have ever experienced before and all you can do is allow them to happen, embrace them and stay fully present in the experience. If you resist them for even a moment their power can easily overwhelm you and take you to a place in your birth that will be less than desirable.

 It’s like the surfer riding the gigantic oceanic waves, he must be alert, aware and fully present in the experience; he can’t allow himself to get caught up in his mind for even a moment, he has to just let go and ride the wave. If he allows his mind to hesitate or slip away from the present moment for even an instant then the wave comes crashing down upon him and swallows him whole.

 The importance of the present moment during birth is the greatest secret there is! In no way is birth easy, it is hard work. It will stretch you to your limits and challenge you to overcome them and go far beyond.  However birth is intense and it takes a lot to not allow yourself to fall into the role of victim and pitying yourself.

We have all experienced pain in our lives, we all have doubts, insecurities, fears and uncertainties about ourselves. This is normal, however if these feelings are not released by the time birth arrives these uncertainties will come up during birth in the form of complications.

Show Up For Birth With a Strong Mind and Trust in Your Body

We must show up to birth with a strong mind, prepared to maintain our ground and be still in the midst of enormous energy, not allowing our minds to drift into the familiar patterns of “poor me.” We must treat birth as a meditation where we steady our minds and just simply allow the universal energy to unfold as it will, allowing and excepting whatever it brings.

Experience Your Contractions Without Judgment

Birth is a uniquely powerful act, there is nothing to compare it to and if you try to judge or label it, your mind is likely to just easily resort back to that familiar picture that has been painted that birth is pain, and since your mind can’t occupy two spaces at once, and the current focus is on pain then your mind will follow suit and pain is all there will be.

So let’s say a contraction comes on, the pressure is super intense and instead of freeing your mind and allowing it to take place you let judgment sneak in and take over. You then begin to analyze within your mind, whether these sensation is good or bad, short or long, painful or not.

This is when your mind begins its journey of leaving the truth of what’s really happening in the present moment and carries you into a false thought projected reality of either past or future that produces nothing good.

 So the contraction is over now, but in your mind you are still focused on it. Your mind is on the past on how painful that contraction was, then your mind is in the future on how you don’t know how the heck you’re gonna be able to do 15 more hours of this!

But where the mind is not, is on the present. And the present moment is all there is, it is taking place right now, there is nothing you can do to stop it, your baby is coming and birth is inevitable! And only your mind determines how you respond to it.

This is When Birth Gets Good

When we stop analyzing, stop trying to consciously act or respond and just trust and allow birth to take place. This is when birth gets good!

Don’t allow your mind to sit for one moment on the last contraction, once it is over it is over, and you are on to the next. You’ll be amazed at what can happen when you go into birth truly willing to free your mind, free your expectations, release your preconceptions and just allow the power to come in, without analyzing, and without judging. Then the birthing energy will appear as it truly is, it will be neither good nor bad, it will just be.

That is when the magic happens. When you act in the present moment as if that’s all that there is then all limitations you have placed on yourself lift away and you are able to allow the truth of yourself to shine through.

What is this truth? That you are all powerful, capable, loving, that you hold the power of the universe `within yourself and if you open those gates it will effortlessly flow through you unless you let mind come in and stop it.

Always say “YES” to the Present Moment as if you have chosen it, and a deeply satisfying natural childbirth will be likely to emerge!

Conscious gestation and natural childbirth is a gift of divine creation. It’s an ancient energy that acts powerfully through you, first growing your baby and then peaking during your birthing time, rhythmically pulsing, surging and moving through you, bringing life perfectly into the world.

What you and your baby experience together during this time is profound and sets the very foundation for you and your child’s life together. As Mothers we are the vessel in which this new soul will form and be given life through. We are the most important and influential factor in our baby’s life while living both inside and outside of us.

In this article we will explore why we are more important than we know, and how we can transform ourselves to be more supportive of our baby’s physical, mental and emotional health allowing us to create a balanced, confident and happy child by making just a few simple changes now.

You are Your Childs Teacher- During Gestation, Natural Childbirth & Beyond

So much of what your child experiences and learns about life is being learned right now in the womb world where your baby is literally living inside of you. Like a sponge your baby is soaking up everything that you are sending his way and building his ideas of life and personality traits based on his experiences thus far. This learning will be followed by how he is birthed and how he is greeted and cared for, or not cared for upon entering into his new world.

I think that we all too often tend to underestimate just how important of a role we play in our baby’s lives during those precious nine months and during birth. Maybe for sake of modesty we just don’t realize how powerful, influential and important we are.

The role of a Mother is to teach her child about many things, about life, about the world, about how to react and respond to situations, about selflessness and love. It is not enough to simply talk to our children about these things; after all talking is not something that is very familiar to your baby yet. Your baby communicates through a transfer of energy, emotions, and feelings. So we must set ourselves up to be in a place within us where we can teach and lead by example.

For a Great Natural Childbirth the Time for Transformation is Now

Pregnancy and natural childbirth is a significant time in both of your lives. It is a time for great change, an amazing and rare opportunity for growth and transformation on all levels. To prepare your child as an emotionally adjusted member of life you must first make that transformation within yourself.

To do this we must rediscover ourselves as pure potential waiting to be unveiled. We cannot be fully present in our role as a Mother and a leader unless we first come to terms with the fact that we ourselves harness all that we will ever need to give our baby a great birth and life.

To do this we must practice regularly going deeply within ourselves, preparing ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually for our baby’s natural childbirth and our role as Mother and Mentor.

Your Baby’s Quality of Life and Birth is Held in Your Hands

Your baby is living inside its own universe which is YOU! Everything that you experience is experienced by your baby.

So when you are having a stressful day so is your baby; now this is important to realize because your emotional state will not only affect your baby’s emotional state while living inside of your womb but will also have a large influence on your collective birthing time.

Negative emotions felt by Momma such as fear, anger or inability to accept what is currently taking place offsets your baby’s emotional health and results in a general feeling of lack of security.

When the birthing time begins if your baby has experienced and harbors feelings of fear, stress or insecurity your baby will be less likely to be confident in making that leap off into the unknown, and will struggle with the ability to just relax, let go, trust and allow birth to happen. You are only one part of the birth; your baby is the other. So as you prepare yourself for natural childbirth remember that you are preparing your baby as well.

By Loving Yourself You are Loving Your Baby

For a Peaceful and Balanced Childbirth Balance Your Energy

When you are out of balance your energy levels, emotional state, and overall health suffer, which similarly affects your baby. However when you make it a priority to align your mind, body and spirit in unison with your baby you are creating two masterpieces! When you are both at your best birth will unfold perfectly.

Natural Childbirth Momma:

Take time for you. Pamper yourself, spend time doing things you enjoy, go on long walks, spend time in nature, daydream, paint, dance, laugh, meditate, do yoga, connect with yourself and let your creativity and imagination flow.

Natural Childbirth Papa :

If this were your boxing match you would be her man in the corner. Your job is to keep her feeling good. Do the things she enjoys with her. Practice asking yourself, “can she be any more comfortable? Can she be any more relaxed? Does she have everything she needs? Could you use a massage? Can you draw her bath? Be sure to go out of your way, above and beyond to be patient and loving.

When you make it a point to take time everyday to love yourself, balance your energy and to be happy you are not only soaking your baby in those wonderfully fluffy feelings but you are also teaching your baby the most important message: that no matter how stressed you are you always have a choice, you can choose calmness, peace, happiness, acceptance and self love over negativity and resistance. Work on building a more confident and happy self and you and your baby will be well on your way to having a great natural childbirth and a fulfilling and joyful life.

Episode 5: Natural Pregnancy

For more tips about natural pregnancy read my blog post: Natural Pregnancy The Key To Sucessful Natural Childbirth

The quality of your birthing experience depends largely upon how well you takes care of yourself while you are pregnant.

Pregnancy is a time for preparation. It’s a time to shower yourself in love and attention, give yourself the best and set your baby up for success.

In this article I will share with you how a natural pregnancy can lead you down the path to having an amazing birth.

Coping with Pregnancy Symptoms (Naturally)

Pregnancy symptoms are a natural part of the journey through pregnancy. You are changing and growing on both a physical and emotional level. You are being transformed into a perfect vessel to love, grow and give life to your baby. It’s natural for you to feel the effects of this change. What’s important is the way you approach and cope with your pregnancy symptoms.

There is a reason and purpose for most pregnancy symptoms (besides making you uncomfortable). Pregnancy symptoms encourage us to tune in and listen to our bodies and ultimately assist us in one way or another along the path to a successful birth.

Some symptoms occur physically and call us to action to strengthen our physical bodies so that we may be more comfortable in our pregnancy. Others take place on an emotional level that call us to explore and open our emotional selves in an act of cleansing and renewal so that we may greet our babies with perfect love.

Having a healthy, natural pregnancy can help greatly reduce the discomfort from pregnancy symptoms. When you take excellent care of yourself during pregnancy and cultivate a healthy emotional and physical state you will adjust more easily and naturally to the changes happening in your body.

A Healthy Natural Pregnancy Diet

If you want your baby to be the best you have to feed it the best. This means eating wholesome, nutrient rich foods (not the junk foods you might be craving). Remember when you are feeding yourself, you are also feeding your baby.

During pregnancy your baby is in a very early stage of development, so the affect of your nutritional choices have a much bigger impact on your baby’s growth than you might expect. Part of a natural pregnancy is eliminating bad foods from your diet, and replacing them with good, nutrient rich foods which will help nurture your baby and prepare her (and yourself) for birth.

The most nutrient rich foods are those that are as close to their natural state as possible, such as fruits, vegetables, nuts and seeds, and “single ingredient” foods you find in the outside aisles of the grocery store. Avoid processed and packaged foods. If it comes in a box and has more than three ingredients, it’s probably not very good for you.

You should have a wide variety of colorful fruits and veggies in your diet (the fresher the better).

Protein is also important for the baby’s growth, which can be found in lean meat (like chicken and turkey), fish, eggs, soy products, etc.

Vitamins and Supplements

At a minimum you should be taking a daily prenatal vitamin. Vitamins are good, but it’s always better to get your nutrients from wholesome natural food, instead of in pill form. However, many foods in modern supermarkets do not contain as many vitamins and minerals as they used to because they are grown in depleted soil using chemical fertilizers, harvested out of season, etc. So supplementing your natural pregnancy diet with vitamins is a good idea.

The Importance Of Exercise For Natural Pregnancy

Regular physical activity prepares your body to be healthy and strong enough to carry your baby without having to strain, and when the time comes enables you to birth your baby more comfortably.

A natural pregnancy exercise program should be part of your daily routine. But don’t worry, because it doesn’t have to be anything hard. You don’t have to go to the gym for hours or anything like that.

The best exercises are: Walking, Yoga, Swimming and Kegals (pelvic floor exercise)

Remember you are not exercising to lose weight or tone up. Exercising may help you to lose the pregnancy weight quicker after the birth, but the main goal is to build strength and health.

Natural Pregnancy Weight Gain

It is natural for women to gain a different amount of weight while they are pregnant. Weight gain of anywhere from 20-35 lbs and up is considered normal and healthy.

What’s important is not the number on the scale, but that  you get all of the vital nutrients that you need to grow your body and your baby to be healthy and strong.

Natural Pregnancy Classes

Natural pregnancy classes can be a great help to prepare and guide you through pregnancy and toward birth.

Natural pregnancy classes will teach you what’s going on in your body and how you can prepare yourself to have a healthy, and natural pregnancy and birth.

The right class will help you feel healthy on both a physical and emotional level, help you design a natural pregnancy diet and exercise routine, and should include prenatal yoga or other prenatal exercise that build strength and flexibility.

A good natural pregnancy class should also encourage you to connect and listen to your body.

Natural Pregnancy Equals A Great Birth

A healthy and loving birth comes from a healthy, loving, natural pregnancy. Just like anything else in life – you get out of it what you put into it…

If you take care of your body with natural pregnancy, your body will take care of you and your baby during birth.