But because it is powerful! It will lift you high, up into the light of the divine, but in doing so it will shake the very foundation that you stand on, often causing you to lose your footing and plunge into the dark hours of the soul.
During these dark times we can find ourselves feeling very much alone, scrambling to catch our breath in what seems to be a tsunami of emotion and tears.
In this article I am going to share with you why it is that we go through these hard times, why it is not necessarily a bad thing, and how it can actually serve you in the journey towards a great natural childbirth!
Trusting Natures Divine Path to Natural Childbirth
You having been called to grow this life and bring it into the world through natural childbirth is no mistake! This is the most important thing you will ever do.
You have been called to open the gate for your baby to transition through the divine light of love, a majestic welcome for a soul so deserving!
As with any true assignment of the soul, you will be perfectly guided in the journey and completion of this act. Your job is to simply allow and trust that nature has its specific order and purpose, and even if it doesn’t seem like it at the time it is always leading you on the perfect path.
Preparing for Natural Childbirth- Emotional Clearing
Nature’s first order of business is to clear the pathway of any gunk that has built up over your life time that could possibly get in the way of natural childbirth.
This is often the hardest part, and the most important. It works by going deeply inside of you seeking out all negative energies and emotions that have been stored, activating them, bringing them to surface and then clearing them out. This happens naturally without your permission or consent, it makes no difference whether it is inconvenient for you, or whether it is hard or causes you pain. It does it because it is a vital and necessary part in preparing you for natural childbirth!
Why Hard Times are Essential to Having an Easy Natural Childbirth
Nature is not punishing you; it is preparing you for natural childbirth.
In a natural childbirth when a problem arises it is almost always a result of the Mothers state of mind and emotion during the time of birth. If she has not let go of old harmful emotions and thought patterns prior to her birthing time, it will come up during birth in some form of complication.
So instead of dealing with emotional issues at the time of birth, nature encourages them to be activated, dealt with and cleared out during your pregnancy. This is the preparation stage.
At one point or another in your journey towards natural childbirth you will go through times that will not only challenge you, but will shake you to the core and leave you collapsed on floor in tears. Sounds fun I know! But we’ve all been there before and will all be there again.
Nature intentionally puts you through these hard times. It is working perfectly as planned, presenting you with exactly what you need to rid yourself of anything and everything that does not serve you.
Often times this release does not come easy, it happens with you kicking and screaming, not quite ready to let go of all that pain. It may seem easier to just want to tuck it away again, where it was safe and forgotten about.
But it is Gods will that you release these things and rid yourself of all obstacles that veil your light, only then can you begin to fulfill your purpose.
Only through awakening the pain that is buried within you can you excommunicate it and bring it to the light.
Losing Control and Letting it Go
As women one of the most difficult lessons for us to learn is to allow ourselves to release that control and just let it go.
We have a tendency to cling onto our emotions, holding them inside not letting them go, until they come to a boiling point and we can’t take it anymore, then there’s no stopping them! This is when we say, “I am freaking out! I feel like I’m losing it!”
But our problem is not that we’ve lost control over our emotions; it is that we didn’t let that control go. The reason why sometimes we act out in such extremities when we are emotional is because we are in conflict with what is. We are upset that we are having these emotions. We can’t just accept them and allow them to come, we try to fight them, to struggle against them, and unconsciously creating more conflict and more tension until finally they explode.
Stop Judging Your Emotions and Just Let Them to Be
Do not judge. And do not fight your emotions. It is important to feel them, to allow them to surface, and to let them go freely without any feelings of guilt or shame associated with it.
If you are on the floor crying, accept that that it is where you’re at right now, realizing that it is a necessary release to clear out old emotions to make space for new truths.
When you feel like you are breaking down, allow it happen, without judgment and without trying to control it. Just accept it as part of the process and allow it to happen.
This may be one of the biggest lessons we are given that prepares us for natural childbirth, learning to surrender control, to accept what is taking place without judging it.
Lessons of Natural Childbirth- The Calm and the Storm
We must accept and embrace the difficult times as fully as we accept the easy times. This is a fundamental part of natural childbirth.
Having a natural childbirth is not all effort and it is not all rest. It is the perfect balance between the two. Contractions are the storm, the challenge, and the rest in between contractions is the calm, the ease.
Of course when a contraction comes on it is not easy, it is a challenge to stay centered in the midst of all that pressure. But it is what it is. It makes no since to fight it, the only thing that will do is cause it to be painful and harder than it has to be. This is the process, it is necessary and it has its purpose. This is what is moving your baby closer to being born.
When you are in the act of natural childbirth you are participating in something that is infinitely larger than you and beyond your control.
So there is nothing to do, except relinquish control. Your judgment and your attempts to fight against what is taking place will quickly prove to be futile. There is nothing to be done except to trust the process. All you have to do is simply allow.
You also know that nothing is permanent, and that each period of intensity will be followed by a period of rest. It is like the waves of an ocean billowing powerfully in, and then receding peacefully out. This is the beautiful cycle of natural childbirth.
Lessons of Pregnancy – Embracing the Tides of Your Emotions
Everything that happens during pregnancy is connected with the lessons of birth.
The same lesson is true for when you are experiencing the emotional cycles of your pregnancy. You will experience both the calm and the storm. And it makes no since to struggle, or to fight against it, it is necessary and purposeful. It is the natural process of preparing you for natural childbirth. The pain is simply the act of clearing the emotional and spiritual path for your baby’s arrival.
It is bigger than you and beyond your control, and so there is nothing to do except to surrender that control. Simply accept the process, trusting and knowing that it is nature’s divine plan at work. And that the pain will pass. And when all the darkness that has been weighing you down has been lifted you will be set free from fear!
In the absence of fear you open the space for love to guide you and your baby through the divine natural childbirth that is rightfully yours.