What Childbirth Without Fear Looks Like
Natural childbirth without fear is an empowering and often times highly spiritual event where a women learns the natural rhythms of her body and glows with an indescribable radiance…
As her birthing progresses she awakens to an inner strength, and suddenly knows what it is to be a woman…
She embraces the power of her body, and for a moment in time she feels connected with every woman that has gone before her…
As she relaxes deeply and lets her body lead, she knows that she is giving her baby the best gift she can bestow – the gift of a loving childbirth without fear.
In the presence of a woman giving childbirth without fear, people often report seeing a glow of light and color radiating from her.
And the father says he has never seen his woman look more beautiful.
When you birth with love you greatly increase your chances of experiencing a gentle, comfortable and painless childbirth without fear.
If you want to experience childbirth without fear you have nothing to fear but fear itself
I believe that we are introduced to fear in our first moments of life…
When we are born our first impressions of this world remain forever embedded in our subconscious minds…
And later in life, when faced with new challenges and obstacles, we often revert back to those same old feelings…
Feelings that tell us the world is a big scary place, and we are very small and helpless.
We’re ashamed of fear, so we often bury it inside and try to hide our fears from others…
But that is not the best approach if you want to give the gift of a happy childbirth without fear.
It is better to address each of your own fears and uncertainties honestly and directly before going into labor.
This way you can put them out of your mind and allow your true potential as a mother to shine through when the time comes.
When we realize that as women we are beautiful and powerful creatures, and that our strength lies within our love, then we can experience an amazing childbirth without fear.
Effects of Fear on Your Body and Your Baby
Many times complications during childbirth can be directly attributed to the mother’s inability to control her fear.
“When your baby is inside you, your baby feels what you feel”
Your baby’s every fiber is interconnected with yours, and he or she is like a sponge, soaking up all of your emotions.
When you dwell on feelings of self doubt and fear you will be unconsciously sending your baby a message that he or she has a legitimate reason to be afraid of being born.
As well as causing emotional distress in your self and your baby, this can also create harmful physical responses in both you and your baby…
- Your heart rate rises…
- Breathing slows…
- Blood pressure rises…
- And the muscles in your body become tightly clenched.
This is where complications can begin.
Your body is trying to do its job, which is to move and stretch and open to allow your baby to come out.
Your job is to relax and let your body do its magic.
If you are clinched with fear you are actively fighting against your body and creating a struggle for your baby to be born.
Choose To Give Childbirth Without Fear
Remember, you are the creator of your own experience and it is your choice what emotions you focus on and cultivate inside yourself.
You can choose to focus on positive thoughts and experience childbirth without fear.
Focusing on your fear during birth can lead to a self-defeating process I call:
Sometimes things are not all right. But most of the time they are…
When you allow fear to take over your thoughts your interpretation of reality can become skewed and create a self fulfilling prophecy.
The more you focus on your fear the more that fear grows, like a snowball.
Then your potential for a painless and calm childbirth without fear slips right out the window.
The Benefits Of Natural Childbirth Without Fear
When you shift your focus away from your mind and all of it’s worries, and focus on allowing your body to do what it does best, you are giving your child a beautiful gift…
The gift of believing in herself.
By cultivating feelings of peace, calmness and love you will be sending your baby the message that she is welcome in our world…
You are telling her that she can feel free to come on out and join us.
“She doesn’t have to be afraid… she can do it, and she is capable of anything!”
In return she will be sharing that same message with you…
“You don’t have to be afraid, you can do it! You are capable of giving life!”
Practical Methods For Overcoming Fear
Here are some things you can do while pregnant and during labor to prepare for a natural childbirth without fear:
Tip 1 – Kick Fear Out
One method to get rid of fear is to be conscious of your emotions and don’t allow fear to take root in your mind.
If fear had a physical form it would look like a thick cloud of black smoke that blocks out the light of your potential and makes it impossible for you to breath.
Exercise: Imagine your fear as a billowing plume of black smoke burning inside of you that, if left unattended, will soon fill up every crevice of your body. Now take a deep breath and exhale, blowing it all out and releasing it from your body.
Tip 2 – Address your Concerns and Move Past Them
Throughout your pregnancy, especially as you get closer to your baby’s arrival, be conscious of indentifying any fears and questions you may have before they have a chance to take root and affect you and your baby’s well being.
When new concerns and fears come up don’t ignore them or dwell on them.
Instead keep a log and write them down so you can find answers to them later.
This way you can put them out of your mind.
Tip 3 – Go Within to keep Fear Out
If you look deep within yourself you will find the truth that you already instinctively know how to give birth, just like all of the creatures of the earth do.
Even if you have never done it before, as a woman you already possess the ability to give birth naturally.
With this realization you can dismiss many fears that are based on self-doubt and trust in nature and your body’s natural ability.
Tip 4 – Release Negative Energy and Refill With Positive
There are many activities you can do while pregnant to promote the positive flow of energy within you, such as:
- Chi kung
- Creating art
- Walks in nature
- Soaking up the sun…
If you engage in activities that build up positive energy throughout your pregnancy you can open yourself completely during labor and allow all of that beautiful energy to pour out…
Bringing your baby right into your arms!
Childbirth without fear is a beautiful experience that every woman is capable of and every child deserves…
If a Momma can be conscious of holding herself in a calm and peaceful state, she will be sending her baby the message that she doesn’t have to be afraid of being born, she can feel free to come on out and join us, and that she will be loved and welcomed.
When that understanding is reached, birth has the potential to be a magical and miraculous journey for everyone involved.